For those who want a change from the Gospel
Trinity 8 – 1 Kings 3:5-12 (Related)
I know it’s not very PC nowadays, but personally I have found material on stages of male development really helpful. A man, it has been suggested, lives his life (or ought to live his life) through six stages: Beloved Son, Cowboy, Warrior, Lover, King and Sage. I won’t go into it all here[1], but I want to focus, as our reading suggests, on the sixth and final stage, that of being the Sage. I think that’s where I am: after having run my own parishes, led my own churches and directed a parachurch organisation, I moved gradually from being the King of these particular castles to being the grey-haired old man with not as much energy but plenty of experience, and a mind which has learnt to reflect on it so as to be able to help and, I hope, inspire others. I now work training the church leaders of the future, and my experience has become wisdom.
Wisdom is a massive topic in the Bible, and it even forms an important OT genre, the so-called Wisdom literature to be found, among other places, in Proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Job. Proverbs in particular is full of admonitions to young people to pursue wisdom, to embrace it (or, usually, ‘her’) in order to live good and godly lives, although in my experience older people are much more concerned with wisdom, and much better at showing it, than younger people are. So what does the Bible mean when it talks so much about wisdom, and why is it such an important idea?
Solomon is a pretty good guide in helping us to explore this subject. He has just become king, succeeding his father David, who, in spite of a spectacular fall, is still remembered as Israel’s greatest ever king. He is a hard act to follow, so Solomon is no doubt daunted at the task ahead of him. So when God comes to him in a dream and offers him whatever he wants, he is already wise enough to realise that what he most needs is wisdom. Our text tells us more about this encounter, and in particular outlines five characteristics of Solomon’s heart. It is worth saying here, though, that when the OT uses the term, it is not about intelligence of academic success. The term refers to what the French would call savoir-faire, or ‘knowing what to do’. It is about how to live life well, not how to gets lots of letters after your name.
He is aware of others.
He knows that he stands on the shoulders of giants, and in particular he knows that he owes a great debt to his father David. It can be part of the arrogance of younger people that they can see no value in what has gone before, and feel that they have to throw everything out so that they can now do it properly. My area of research, about the abandonment of liturgical worship in youth-orientated churches, is a clear example of this attitude. We have nothing to learn from the fusty old attitudes of the previous generation, because we are young, full of the Spirit, and know it all. Solomon appears to be in awe of his illustrious father.
He understands spirituality.
Furthermore, he gets why David was such a great king: he remained (mostly) faithful to God. He could see that his father’s success was a direct result of him knowing that he had been chosen by God, and that he owed him obedience. David wasn’t simply a great man: he was a godly man. Presumably he understood that any greatness for which he himself might be destined would similarly spring from a relationship of obedience to God.
He exhibits humility.
We might feel his protestations that he is ‘only a little child’ (v.7) a little overblown, but behind it all is the awareness that the task ahead of him is one for which he is not really equipped. Again, this is in stark contrast to many younger people who feel perfectly ready to take on the world. Indeed this is what Eldridge’s ‘Warrior’ phase is all about.
He knows the value of listening.
The Hebrew phrase ‘a discerning heart’ is more accurately translated as ‘a listening heart’. This, along with humility, is a key characteristic of those who are strong leaders but not dictators. To be able to listen deeply both to God and to those whom we are leading is a key element in leadership, along with the ability to remain steadfastly on track even when others would try to divert us or tell us that we are wrong. This is a key skill in leadership, and learning both to listen and to stick to your guns is not an easy thing to do, particularly in a world where ‘democracy’ and ‘collaborative leadership’ have become the order of the day. If a leader is ‘someone whom God tells before he tells anyone else’, the ability to remain true to God’s call and vision whilst not riding roughshod over others is vitally important. I have seen far too many churches in paralysis mode because ‘people won’t like that’.
But there is one more thing we know about Solomon. We won’t find it in this passage: we have to read on further into his life and reign.
He has the ability to blow it.
Whilst this passage speaks in unremittingly glowing terms about Solomon’s potential greatness, we soon learn that even in spite of being the patron saint of sages he is capable of losing the plot and acting really stupidly. I find that terrifying. I like to think of myself as having successfully entered sagehood, and I like the idea that my accrued wisdom and experience are now helping others to live well themselves. But I am also painfully aware that I can be just as unwise as Solomon pretty easily. The calls of Proverbs to young people to thirst after wisdom might seem a bit to premature, but I know that at my ripe old age I too need to keep seeking wisdom from God, and yearning to remain wise
[1] … but you can read all about it in Eldridge, John (2006) The Way of the Wild at Heart. Nashville, TN.: Thomas Nelson.


